Six weeks ago Jared and I had a late night with some red wine, and an unusually calm baby, and we realized (finally) our life plan. It began with me calling him over to the computer to show him a blog, Daughter of the Sun. The most recent post had been a short video of a neighbor’s backyard garden with a boy explaining how they’ve been living off their land. The next post showed gorgeous photos of a toddler–similar to how I’ve imagined Fae as she grows–barefoot, half-naked, and enjoying nature. Seeing these families living peacefully and simply in their Hawaiian community was very inspiring to me.
Before that night we had thoughts of eventually having a home, somewhere, with some land, but no specifics. I certainly had my fantasies. But I’ve come to realize lately that a tiny castle overseas may not be in our near future, and a grass hut on the beach isn’t an ideal living situation–although I do believe it could work, in the right community. I have known for years that the home we do choose will need to be a little unique. I like places that feel different, like they’re caught between worlds, just a little off, but in a beautiful way.
Knowing the kind of lifestyle that we wanted, and now inspired by actually seeing it, in existence, our night progressed into scouring the internet for how to make it possible. I mentioned communes to Jared, as I’ve considered them in the past. We searched through a bunch, some beautiful, some wild, most eccentric, but we realized that although it might be exciting, we’re a little too private for such a close-knit community. We researched eco-villages, tried to find sustainable-living communities, and looked for idyllic farmland. The night ended with some deep-ish discussions (we were drinking our wine pretty quickly due to all of our excitement) and we decided on our plan.
First of all, yes, we want some land, two acres would be nice. And not just any land; we want to be able to grow a beautiful garden and have some fruit trees as well. I mentioned to Jared that the land must be able to grow palm trees. I don’t even like coconut all that much, but I plan to. I also want it to be a little wild. I’ve never liked manicured lawns much either. We also would LOVE to avoid the insanely huge northeast tick population, somehow. Meaning we’ll probably not end up with land in New England unless it’s really special, and most likely on the coast (and I can manage to have an indoor palm tree in an atmosphere-controlled secret garden green house).
Next, we hope to live off the grid, literally, which will naturally include some solar panels, but we’d like to take it a step further. I assume we’ll end up with a nice, deep well so that we can have our own water (maybe even a stream or pond too, for fun), road bikes for transportation, and a basement or pantry lined with shelves for food (and wine). We also, and this is important, want to be living in a community with others who are trying to live life similarly. We know that we’ll need a lot of support. I don’t plan to farm every vegetable and fruit that my family will eat, but I’d like to be able to get them locally. Milk too. I’m not planning on having a cow–some sheep, of course, chickens too, maybe even a goat, but not a cow.
Since we’ve started our little family I feel motivated to find that place that fits with us, hopefully before Fae grows into a young girl. Our plan seems attainable within a few years. We don’t know where we’ll be going, but we’ve figured out the lifestyle that we’re after, and the type of community (similar to the one in Hawaii–lots of crafters, farmers, natural baby-raisers, and nature lovers). We have some time to explore, whether it’s the South West, a Carolina, or a Virgin Island, or even some hilltop in New Hampshire where all of the ticks have vanished due to, who knows, Faerie Magic? We’ll see what we find.
Fae is nap-nusing on my lap. We re-arranged our place today, and now the couch faces the bay windows that look towards the sunset. I have a really nice place to relax now. Fia (Kitty) just jumped up and started grooming Fae’s head, which she does often these days. It usually makes Fae giggle, but she’s luckily still asleep.